More about
Couples Therapy with Me
Couples work with me is first of all about safety and connection. I believe it is really important to that both of you feel comfortable with who I am. Couples that I frequently see in my practice are couples that are in transitions of life (kids, marriage, aging parents) and maybe want to renegotiate and assess how/what they want it to look like or maybe they have been together for a short or long time, have or had a deep, supportive partnership but the intimacy (emotional and/or physical) has changed and needs some work. Most couples I see, even those in discernment therapy, deeply care and some even still love their partner but things are not feeling great. They either want to see how they can grow and change for each other or how they can support each other in a different formation of their relationship. I don't think one size is right for any relationship. For example, what is codependent to one might be a really loving, supportive relationship to another. And one couple might decide no sex is completely fine and another might say they need more and want to explore non-monogamy. There is no one way; maybe just ideal ways we can share what we share... which even that can have some room based on your own upbringing :)
Sex Therapy and Couples Therapy
Undoing, re-igniting and re-aligning sexual intimacy is most of the work I do with couples. This means understanding the narratives of what you think sex should be and creating a sex life that can actually be. Sex is just not a topic we talk about honestly. So many couples live stressful lives and have stable relationships that doesn't translate to sexual desire. I say that to say, you are not alone.
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I work with desire discrepancy, sexual dysfunction, kink mismatch and introduction, sexual/gender identity and the impacts on your current relationship and sex when there was sexual trauma before the relationship.
Couples Therapy and Unique Impacts
A community I love to support, especially with the complexity and impact on sex and the relationship are couples where one or both has a past eating disorder or autoimmune/chronic health conditions. I also really love working with couples who are transplants/moved from other parts of the country/world OR if one partner is rooted here and the other is from elsewhere.
